Domestic violence, also known as intimate partner violence, takes several forms: physical, emotional, and sexual. Domestic violence is not about violence directly. The violence is the method in which the batterer demonstrates his [I will use the male gender because most batterers are men] power and control over his victim.
Ways the batterer exercises his power and control:
1. Intimidation;
2. Emotional abuse;
3. Isolation;
4. Minimizing (his behavior), denying (his behavior), and blaming (the victim for his bad behavior);
5. Using the children;
6. Preventing the victim from having any money of her own;
7. Male privilege; and
8. Coercion and threats.
The abuser will mix and match methodologies to achieve this highest level of fear in his victim so she will cooperate or meet his demands. Any combination of any of the above factors is enough to keep the victim from leaving the batterer.